I often think about where I might be if I hadn’t given up on things so early.

If I hadn’t given up, I might have been a business owner.

In high school, I used to draw a lot. I drew on anything — my desk at school, my notebooks, my sketch pad.. anything. I often asked my father to take me to Michael’s and one day while perusing the aisles, I discovered “puffy paint,” which would allow me to paint on my clothes. So I did. …

Last month I lost one of my closest friends. And I’m dealing.

It’s like the scene in Titanic, where the ship is sinking and the band continues to play.

Everything around you continues to move, but you’re struggling to remember how to put one foot in front of the other and each time you think you’ve got it, something happens to make you lose your footing. …

It happens.

I could probably end it here, but that’s not all I have to say.

One of the biggest lessons you’ll learn in sports is how to face adversity. Whether you play at the top level or for recreation, you’re going to experience the peak of an amazing victory and the devastation of a terrible defeat. I don’t think defeat can be ranked, though some would argue that they’d rather lose by a little than to get blown out by a lot. I don’t agree with that theory.

Losing sucks. Period.

It’s supposed to hurt. It’s supposed to haunt…

I can’t remember who said this, but I saw it on Twitter and wish I could give the original author their credit:

You are the bag. Secure yourself.

It might’ve been Cardi B. Can’t remember.

If there were ever a more appropriate motto to describe the free agency world in sports… sheesh. This post is probably a month too late, but it’s been heavy on my mind lately and provided some much needed clarity for myself.

We are all in pursuit of happiness and that word holds a lot of weight.

The most basic description of “happiness” is a sense of well-being, joy or contentment.


I have a problem.

I can’t sit still.

For some reason I have to be doing something and even when I’m physically not doing a “thing,” my mind is racing to what I could be doing.

I didn’t realize this until my most recent vacation. Spending time in another place has a way of showing you exactly how addicted to busyness you really are. For the first time ever, I went on vacation alone with no real itinerary. My only commitments included meeting up with a few friends for lunch and just going with the flow.

For some reason, those…

I’m writing this as I sit on an airplane, peeking in and out of a book that’s quickly becoming one of my favorites. No kidding, I probably reference it everyday in conversation. It’s definitely a page turner but no matter how interesting a book is, reading in or on a moving object — car, bus, train or plane — just makes me sleepy. So, please excuse any typos or grammatical errors. — blame it on the turbulence.

Nevertheless, the book has got me thinking… and here is the result of that.

As children, we are taught to ask for permission…

Plenty of us have friends, right? We love the ones that provide us with positive affirmations, cheer us on when we’re doing well, tell us everything we want to hear and are all-around there to root for US.

What the 76ers and #TrustTheProcess Taught Me About Crazy Faith

Five years ago, the Philadelphia 76ers were arguably the worst team in the NBA. To remedy this, the team hired a new GM by the name of Sam Hinkie, who, in his introductory press conference, stressed the virtue of patience in the rebuilding process. Hinkie was an analytics guy who came to Philly by way of the Houston Rockets where he was promoted through the ranks and eventually became Executive Vice President. He was adamant about advanced basketball analytics and thus admired the long view of building a championship team.

I was a very curious kid. I used to ask why a lot, not out of disrespect to adults, but to gain a better understanding of what I was seeing and what I was hearing. Adults did their best to be patient with me, but my Dad had very little patience for my questions. I remember hearing this one particular response for most of my teenage years:

“because you asked me and I said no.”

That response used to make my blood boil! I remember always rolling my eyes (when I was out of his sight, of course) and thinking…

Resolutions for 2018 and beyond.

This post was originally posted on my LinkedIn page on Dec. 30, 2017.

2018 is a couple of days away and for some, it’s a promise of a fresh start… and New Year’s Resolutions! No matter how much the contrarians of the world will try to convince us that we’re wasting our time making lists of promises we might not keep, it’s still pretty important for me to think about what I might want to change, learn or do when the calendar flips. I learned a ton of lessons in 2017 and was pushed and…

Deandra D.

Under the influence of sports, coffee and 90s R&B. Writing about life lessons at 30-ish.

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